Why is this so relatable? It hits hardest for me in the winter but i know it's because people don't want the inconvenience of leaving home in the cold. And yet that's when i need it most. Nobody realizes that for every "I'm busy" " sorry I can't" cancel plans for convenience, there is a lonely person on the other side of it who really needs the company. I'm in a relationship now so I don't feel it so acutely but i can count on one hand the amount of times i see people when the weather starts changing. And yeah it's a two way street but i also sometimes feel like it's time to look elsewhere if I'm not getting what i need.
This hit home. I’ve always been the one to organize, text first, send the postcard too — and like you, I don’t regret being wired that way. But slow travel has taught me the beauty of reciprocity: sometimes you step back, and the people who *do* show up make the circle warmer, tighter, truer.
Here’s to sweater weather, cinnamon on everything, and maybe a surprise phone call from the friend you least expect.
Why is this so relatable? It hits hardest for me in the winter but i know it's because people don't want the inconvenience of leaving home in the cold. And yet that's when i need it most. Nobody realizes that for every "I'm busy" " sorry I can't" cancel plans for convenience, there is a lonely person on the other side of it who really needs the company. I'm in a relationship now so I don't feel it so acutely but i can count on one hand the amount of times i see people when the weather starts changing. And yeah it's a two way street but i also sometimes feel like it's time to look elsewhere if I'm not getting what i need.
This hit home. I’ve always been the one to organize, text first, send the postcard too — and like you, I don’t regret being wired that way. But slow travel has taught me the beauty of reciprocity: sometimes you step back, and the people who *do* show up make the circle warmer, tighter, truer.
Here’s to sweater weather, cinnamon on everything, and maybe a surprise phone call from the friend you least expect.
I can relate to this. I’ve been having the same thoughts lately and trying to just hold space.